I always boasted of a large friends' circle. I was never the kind to have like just two very close friends...you know. I always spoke in double digit numbers when it came to friends. I like knowing a lot of people. And yes I understand the difference between knowing people and actually being friends...
But you know what? Say ten years ago, I knew a lot a people and I had a lot of friends. We all stayed in the same city. Studied pretty much the same course. Had the same extended friends' circle to talk about. It was fun...I look back at that time and my heart goes all aaaawwwww.
I miss that time...coz today my social life is so contrasting to the one I had then.
Today there are demarcations. I have friends, close friends, old friends, work friends and the other people I know...
The other people I know is waaaay larger than what I had ten years back. I guess that's just with the accumulation of time...in a way tells you how old you are!
But the friends and the close friends...is a smaaall number compared to this large universe of people I know today. Very different from how it was ten years ago. And most of these friends and close friends who I carefully collected and treasured over the years, don't live in the same city as me...most of them not even the same country.
Honestly, the distance doesn't hamper our friendship. A huge round of applause for the internet for that...communication is so easy today. So yeah, we are all in touch. But that still doesn't change the fact that today in the city I stay I may have a grand total of three or four close friends...one actually being my sister.
My social life you ask?? Well, pretty non-existent actually. And from what I hear it is the same story with most people today. We are so busy with our jobs, and our chores, and our families...that I think we've forgotten to have a social life. I mean, I sometimes put 'Have a Social Life' on the check-list coz I may forget!
The internet steps in again...this time to help me stay in touch with people I know in the same city...yeah...the same city. I chat with them and I comment on their pictures and their updates. So yeah we are in touch...or rather we are 'connected' and I guess today that counts for being in touch.
Ha! We actually get away easy...don't have to write those letters and buy those stamps and find those post boxes (actually that reminds me I have not seen a post-box in ages!!). Isn't that great??
Hmmm...not really. Coz I am an internet addict. Yes, I accept that!
But you know yesterday, as another friend left Bengaluru...I was sad. Sad that from having friends like a street away from where I lived...today most of my close friends reside in the state of California. Nope they do not have any particular fascination for the state...just that they are all engineers :-)
Anyways getting back to the point...when I sat down and thought about it...I wished I didn't have to check up on my friends on Facebook...or think if it was the right time to call them coz they are half a day behind us...or have to use emoticons to laugh at their jokes or send them hugs when they are low...
Today...just one of those days...I miss my friends...
13 comments:
Seriously Vibha...i soo agree with u..Times have changed and we all have moved on...Totally relate to u feelings...good stuff babe!!!!!!
@Pushmeet - I know...by the way you are one of those 4 friends I have here...don't leave!!
Although it's a little sad it's also the truth in our case- "the perfect example of a tech dependent friendship!" But that being said, I am so proud and lucky to have such a strong bond with u! We mange to live it all up in 1 day or 1 hour! *hugs*- miss u too!
This is so true! I sometimes wonder if our definition of friendship has deteriorated. I also mentally kick myself for not picking up the phone and speaking to friends but it seems so much faster and easier!
@Sush - Yup we thrive on this new system of friendship :-)
@Ms.Mephistopheles - First of all thanks for the comment. Do keep visiting! And trust me...I take the faster and easier way out too most times :-)
I guess that is the sad reality of life...everyone has to move on with their lives as time passes. But the good thing is that one way or the other we do manage to be in touch with people who are important to us...and that is what matters.
God...sometimes i miss bangalore so much...especially when i need someone to talk to or someone to bitch to :)
but i still do it...if not over a drink...over skype...its not so bad :)
@Adi - We should try doing it over skype over a drink ;)
:-) there is the emote icon for you.
Agree with you vibha, completely. here is what i think.
If people want to stay in touch, they find a way, internet, snail mail, phone or pigeon :-)
Having people close by is always great. Being one of the friends who migrated to a far off land, i do miss the company I had. But I always know that the "friends" i have will always be there when i want them the most.
You dont have to worry about calling the california based friends, pick up the call and call away anytime, except for the first min of waking up, will chat away like always.
The other option, pack up and .....
Hugs Subba...and yes I know we will stay in touch. Like Sush and I say the internet actually helped us becoming closer friends :-) We have fought the test of time differences, distances and all of that. And yes we will try and make a trip sometime...I think Tarun still wants to try Shiv's morthakoramba...is that how it is spelt??
HI Vibha
I guess, as life moves on, priorities change, and we accept the inevitable truth of separation, it is but natural that you feel the way you do. Being an internet addict is not a bad thing..I mean, those days back then were fine, but usually the letters which started once every week, went on to every month to maybe on bdays! and bang!,,now we can email and chat everyday! I feel blessed to be born in this age of technology and wonder how our grandparents ever survived without it! Physical presence maybe important, but since the world has opened up so much, we get to explore more and keep in touch too!
Hi Richa,
Sorry about the delayed reply...thanks for dropping by. And I agree with you that today technology and internet have really made staying in touch easy :-)
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